Blogtober #27

Blogtober #27: A Letter to Your Younger Self

I will put this in lists just because I know how much you I reading lists and will continue to enjoy reading them as I grow up. Lets begin by the things I have learnt and will continue to learn.

1. Always treat your friends and your family right. 

Your sisters aren't there to be your slaves, go and get a bottle of water for yourself, or at least say please. Your friends aren't there for you to push away so you can validate your friendship. Love them because they love you. You'll grow out of this meanness, but was there ever a need to be mean in the first place?

2. It's difficult moving from primary school to secondary school isn't it.

The couple of weeks you spent by yourself, not making any friends, not even hanging around with people but sitting in the locker room eating by yourself. It was hard wasn't it? Don't be sad, because things work out. Also, don't be afraid to make those friends. Don't be afraid to speak to people. Because it eventually worked out right? You made those friends, those "mukateers", who some are still your friends.

3. Your cousins are your best friends, and it is super cool.

How cool is it that your best friends are your cousins? Some people don't understand this, but to you it is normal. Enjoy it, embrace it, you have experienced and will experience so much more with them. Cherish the time, because soon it seems that you are all consumed in your friends that you hardly see each other.

4. Why are you looking at pro-anorexia websites?

There is something sad about being 14 and looking at these websites, to this day I don't even know how you got the idea of these websites and why you were following them. Stop, because it is destructive, it takes a while for you to finally be comfortable with yourself, but just ride that wave out. You'll find you become much more comfortable with yourself.

5. Work hard please (maybe even harder than you already was)

Slacking a little with the science weren't you? You can't blame the teachers but the teachers can't blame you. You wasn't really learning anything because you didn't care to. Maybe care a little more? Just because you are good at one thing and enjoy it, doesn't mean you should ignore the things you aren't good at.

6. Find a hobby and make it count

Try many different things but stick to it. Ballet, what happened to that? Guitar what happened to that? Piano what happened to that? At least continue with something, find something you are passionate about. Because it will be worth it one day. But even if you don't find something enjoy and are passionate about, it's okay because you'll find it one day.

7. Those bad hair decisions.. clothes decisions, those trainers.

Wow, fashion isn't your strong attribute, but it's okay you'll grow into your own.

8. That dream guy won't ever be yours, it's okay because he never really existed, you two weren't meant to be.

Although there is somebody who comes along and REALLY likes you, maybe you should have made it work with him instead? Or maybe it was good that you didn't have to spend all your time and money travelling to meet somebody who wasn't going to be your forever.

9. Embrace the fact you have so much free time

Watching so much television probably isn't the best thing for you, but HEY HO, enjoy it because once you get older staying inside and watching television seems so.. taboo.

10. Make decisions wisely. Are you passionate about this subject or are you just good at it?

The choice of your degree will come and bite you in the butt one day. Choose wisely, if not it's okay because your degree isn't your be all and end all. 

11. Ride the wave

All the ups and downs with him have made you strong. Your naive and trustworthy nature will make you seem so fragile, you are. It's okay let him break you down and build you up. You'll find yourself stronger, maybe even more so than him.

12. Appreciate yourself

Just because he doesn't want you doesn't mean nobody else does. If he makes a mistake move on, don't let him make the decisions. Make decisions for you, not because you don't want to be lonely, but for your inner soul, your happiness, and for your friends, who you have minimal time left with.

13. Speak

You'll learn to do this eventually, but if only you knew you could speak to anybody at anytime. Just do it, it isn't embarrassing and if it is just.. leave, or just laugh it off. Speaking/language and talking is all about fun. Who cares if that person criticises you or judges you, 98% of the people aren't even judging you.

These are all the things I would tell my younger self. After my stint at University I can tell I have changed, A LOT. Before I was naive, nervous, shy, a high achiever, overly attached, slightly lost and lonely. Even though I am still these things beneath, you realise you can change, and to me it is for the better. Change is inevitable as you grow up, so don't accept somebody's reasoning of not talking to you because you "changed".